AUGUST 26, 2022
While brother Randy and I are still working with our foundational “Band of Brothers” group, we are also being led to work with men who are approaching or already into their retirement years. I personally don’t like to use the word “Retirement” because it connotates different thoughts and feelings among many of you reading today’s remarks. To many of us, we may be chasing this artificial finish line, which once achieved, may just cause all sorts of issues with the mind and body, that are not very positive or healthy for us. For others who despise their life-long work or are in tough perceived financial circumstances, it may deplete and destroy their spirit in life. Our objective is to “Lift” spirits and get men to think about WHO they are, whether they need to re-evaluate the path they are on, WHO is traveling with them on that path, and preparing for their end game in this life. (Four of the most difficult life questions we should all ask of ourselves.)
One of the most important words that often comes to mind when we visit with those in this age group is “relevancy.” Being relevant is critical in your working career but often brings about a sense of loss when you are closing in on your final days at the office. For those of you still working, I hope you consider; staying “relevant” by continuing to develop your skills; having an “outside” interest or two; having a mentor or mentee to help you grow and improve daily; quit worrying about becoming obsolete or perceived as disconnected or unproductive; keeping your skills current; and connecting with others by networking, networking, networking. God puts people in front of us for a reason and it is up to each one of us to understand our value we bring to the world with the help of others. It might be your own Band of Brothers or someone that you admire. Building relationships are not easy for some people but there are people out there that are seeking you. You just need to be open to the possibilities and opportunities that will come your way. Just remember our Elevator Guy slogan; CAVE; Commit, hold each other Accountable, allow yourself to be Vulnerable, and be an Encourager to others.
For those of you entering or already in retirement, I understand your concerns which might go from deteriorating health, a sense of loneliness, running out of money, or dealing with your adult children and families. This is what us “Old” folks talk about and think about every day. Being relevant means staying connected, affiliated, and being part of something bigger than oneself. Here are five ways new and existing retirees can stay relevant:
- Stay in shape: The way we look and feel says a lot about WHO we are.
- Be an optimist: Positive people are a precious commodity who are highly sought after. Pessimists (constant complainers) and some realists are notorious for highlighting the negatives, which can leave others feeling empty instead of full. Just because you have seen a lot of life go the wrong way and learned your own hard lessons, doesn’t mean you have to announce or share them with others. Let somebody else be the Debbie Downer. Take on the role of the optimist, encouraging others and shining a light on new possibilities.
- Stay curious: Be a continuous learner. Embrace knowledge and information on all dimensions but seek the wisdom, courage, self-mastery, and love. (Our Band of Brothers Four Pillars) Read; Take Classes, Be a mentor to others.
- Get in for Free: Try volunteering at something that interests you. (i.e. If you are interested in the performing arts, go be an usher and see the concert for FREE.)
- Invest in yourself: So much of retirement is about money. Most of us are generally programmed to fear for their respective resources; to hoard their funds lest they run out. (Abundance vs. Scarcity mentality) Try reaching out and living.
Finally, don’t let comfort and boredom creep into your life. Just as understanding your own definition of success is important, be careful how you look at and define the word “retirement” for yourself. Make it your own and not what someone says it is for you. Stay active and make yourself valuable to others. Leave a legacy of love and service to others. It will be the one of the best decisions you will make your entire earthly life.
Elevator Guy
Quote for the Day; “Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” Author unknown