APRIL 29, 2022
One very important principle I have learned in my many years of life is; “Don’t tell people what they want to hear or what they need in life. Tell them WHO they are.” We all have desires, dreams, wishes, hopes, and WANTS. But what do you really need? In my business career, I tried to hire people based on whether they were fit mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, along with being a good fit for the job. I always tried to hire character and heart (attitude and spirited) and didn’t worry too much about aptitude. Of course you always try to hire someone smarter than yourself. How do you expect to grow as a company if you are all the same? That is insane and only feeds the insecurity of a so-called leader.
Sure, when we interviewed applicants, many wanted to be rich, hold a position of leadership, be significant, be important, be valuable and provide for their family. If you are only in it for yourself or measuring yourself with others by trying to make a lot of money, then you may just have your ladder parked on the wrong castle. I think it was and still is today, important to find people who had an idea of WHO they were and WHO they were becoming. Helping OTHERS was also key. It may take years, but if you don’t know yourself very well to start, you may not figure out what is expected of you or “Grow” yourself with your career.
It took me a while to figure it out, but I found people of wisdom, courage, self-awareness, and love. With that combination of seasoned traits, you just might be partnering with the right people to help guide and grow your team. (Start with finding a good mentor) I found many candidates that “wanted” to be the biggest producer, a leader, and the boss and often were promoted beyond their abilities. Be careful as this might create long term issues for everyone.
Here is where I like to use our Band of Brothers’ saying; “CAVE” This means: Commit, be accountable, be vulnerable and open, and encourage others. If you can find someone that believes in themselves and is open and vulnerable to listening to others, then you might be on to something special. If you think you know it all and don’t care to ask others for help or admit you are wrong once in a while, then life may end up being very lonely and difficult. Look for the team player rather than the “Super Star.” Look for those who play well with others and understand that life is not just about the BIG ME, but about helping others. Listen to others and discern what is important for the group. Look for the Win/Win in all situations.
WHO are you?
Elevator Guy
Quote for the Day; “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” Zig Ziglar