JUNE 3, 2022
Being yourself and knowing WHO you are is very important to navigating life with a clear vision and sense of purpose. Being genuine is critical to our perception of the truth about ourselves and our perception of others. (Remember; don’t compare) We each have our own belief system based on our life experiences and that belief system rules our mind which becomes OUR truth. There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything including the weather, the dog, the cat, the size of someone’s bank account….everything. Everything we feel and everything we don’t feel. If we are on the receiving end of someone’s judgement, we become the victim. Don’t ever play the victim! Look and listen for the many opportunities that await you while you are feeling sorry for yourself. (Remember; It’s NOT about you anyway) Work on being genuine so you don’t have to worry about what other people think of you and wallow in your victimhood the rest of your life. Just be comfortable in your own skin because YOU are worth it and you were made for more.
We often pretend to be what we are not because we are afraid of being rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough, saying the right things, or acting a certain way. Eventually, we will become someone we are NOT. We become a copy of mom and dad’s beliefs, society’s beliefs, our business and organizational environment, and our religious beliefs. You may even like the “false you” or you might feel guilty and shameful about not being the “REAL you.” Try being and living a “genuine” life by not worrying about appearances; by what other people think about you; by what other people say about you; or those numerous things out of your control.
We all grew up with a system of punishment and reward. After so much punishment, (which may be perceived rather than real) we become afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward. (“You can have a cookie when you clean your room.”) The reward is the attention we get from our parents, teachers, friends, and siblings. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention (much of it just human nature) in order to get our reward. The reward feels good and we keep doing what others want us to do in order to get the award. We “fear” being punished and because of that fear, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others or just to be good enough for someone else. Know, understand, trust, and BE thyself.
A final reminder to work on being more of your genuine self. Work to; be authentic, be real, be original, be true, be righteous, be legitimate, and be good. We are all actors at times but don’t take it on the “stage of life.” It will only cause you more problems. Be the “Real” you by learning WHO you are; staying on the right path, taking those that you love along with you; and finding your end-game in life by being prepared.
Elevator Guy
Quote for the Day; “Forget about being impressive and commit to being real. Because being real is impressive.” Jonathan Harnisch